Let's talk sex

There is this strong invisible force built into Man, which some say is from God, yet is on the other hand also labelled as devilish by an overwhelming majority. No one can blame the latter because the fall of many prominent human beings have stemmed from that dark power, yet we fail to realize that it is this same energy that has sustained humankind for millions of years.

So a few days ago at the DSC clinic, the one at Kelantan Lane which specializes in sexually transmitted diseases, I came face to face with the beast. That brute, a good servant to humankind, had only been too eager to turn the tables and drag the unwitting ones to destruction. Husbands cheating on wives with commercial sex workers, man gettiing a new girlfriend, all getting diseases on their members. And in some cases, the only disease was fear, of getting the dreaded HIV.

I suppose it was eye opening. I mean, how many times in a clinic do you get to write down stuff like "last sexual encounter was __ days ago with prostitutes in Orchard Towers.("wah uncle you so rich ah" says the doc) No condoms, no oral sex"? And seeing a doctor having to painstakingly explain to a patient what he means by oral sex. In explicit terms.

Jokes aside, there was one thing that I took from this: Since my childhood many people around me have expressed the decadence of Western culture, what with them being so sexually liberal, but I daresay Asians don't pale in comparison. it's just that they know how to sweep things under the carpet, and pretend to be holy-moley Confucian-ey.

Hypocrites. A quick look at Chinese history reveals some of the most lurid details about our yellow ancestors- Qin Shi Huang's mother sleeping around, dropping bastards along the way. Tung Chi Emperor allegedly looking for prostitutes outside the Forbidden Palace. Last emperors of Western Zhou and Shang ruining their empires thanks to them women. So, sexual sin is universal, not limited to whites.

Some of my adolescent memories- writing Chinese essays about how "thanks to Western culture, our society has been negatively influenced in the following ways", and then knowing about a bunch of relatives watching this famous Taiwan porn video behind closed doors, the same bunch of mothers who would cane their kids if they did the same. But that's why life's interesting.

On a more serious note, I've rationalised the need for sexuality to be expressed within marriage. For instance, would you share your most intimate secrets with strangers? Casual friends? I suppose not. Likewise, you probably wouldn't want that most private part of your body and your spirit to be shared with someone random. But I know, some people think its just for fun, be my guest if that's how you view that part of yourself.

But it's hard. Freak. Not kidding here. But in life we all have our crosses to bear. You cannot hide them, you cannot be so hypocritical as to suggest they don't exist.They will not be taken from us because we have to learn to carry them. Sometimes you'll drop them and crack them. And then you have to pick it up again and submit these forces to a higher will.